It was 2023 and the world was changing. My twenty six year marriage had produced two sons, my own business, two houses, and a chance for a comfortable retirement. At forty-seven I stay busy but far from overwhelmed. My wife works as a academic and has her own retirement at fifty-three she shuttles between two Universities in two different states. We rarely see each other, and share weekend phone calls, and leave notes on the kitchen counter.
It was Christmas vacation and both my sons home for vacation. I called the house at 8:30 and got no answer. So I checked the security system and watch the following....
Jimmy 20 home for Christmas runs into his big brother Pete age 22 and also home from college exiting the bathroom after a morning rush to pee in both cases.
Pete - Good Morning little brother, looking kind of sexy. Mom and dads at work join me in my bedroom. Let's go back to bed this time together.
Jimmy- (smiles ear to ear) Give me a second and I will be right there.
Three minutes later Jimmy shows up slightly nervous as Pete close the door come on in patting the empty space on the bed next to him. Jimmy climes on the bed and lays down next to his big brother the two young men look like twins despite the slight age difference.
Pete - So little bro have you heard of a buddy date.
Jimmy - No is that a date with a guy? Is it a gay thing?
Pete - It a little gay but you can still claim you are are straight.
Jimmy - So, what do you do on a buddy date.
Pete - You go out and have fun with a promise to buddy bate before you go home alone.
Jimmy - What's buddy bate?
Pete - It's what you do before you go to sleep and the first or second thing you do when you wake up in the morning. You do that at the same time you are making out with your buddy date.
Jimmy - Bro sounds hot have you ever done that? Is it something you can do with your brother. Do you want to do that part right now?
Pete - I would love to do that with you come here.
Jimmy - Who taught you how to kiss like that?
Pete - It's all about practice, you sure you haven't done this before?
Jimmy - Only in my dreams bro, I love you for doing this with me.
Pete - I love making out with you, Damn you are good at this. So let's lose the underwear.
Jimmy - Oh OMG slow down make this last... that feels great.
Pete - Bro I need to do this at least three times a day.
Three times a day seem to ring a bell.... I thought to myself...
That was last summer. The security system I put it was because no one was ever home that much. With both boys in college my wife and I work and both do some traveling. We each found ourselves home alone at night. The camera on every window upstairs was not there to capture what happened on the bed. The voice recording of live activity was incase the intruders referred to the other(s) by name, and could be used in voice identification match.
All at the advice of the security company sales person. Steven was twenty-nine with three kids and on was on restriction by his wife to only engaging in gay stuff with guys she approves of until she is thirty five. A total of seven more years.
Steven was against the whole gay stuff idea, until his wife Jan talk him and her brother Billy to try a buddy date. They spend the day together, starting at the gym, they have lunch and a hit a five dollar movie at two at the theatre. They hit an adult book store to help get them in them mood. It did ease the conversation about how the date would end.
Billy finally admits he has does this a few times before, but don't tell his sister. Steven admitted he can't do without sex for seven years and this needs to work for his marriage and his kids. They hit a gay bar for a few drinks before heading back to Billy's apartment. They got a chance to dirty dance and Steven is thinking back dancing with Billy's sister his wife when they first met. He grabs a handful of Billy's hair to pull him closer. Yelling in his ear. Let's go back to our place now. Hand in hand they exit the building and buddy bated in the elevator and several more time before the next morning.
Steven - The great thing about these buddy dates are that my wife is totally cool with the wife. I am a married straight guy with a wife and three kids. I buddy bate with my brother n law three days a week. Sunday Tuesdays and Thursdays. I go on buddy dates with sleepovers on Fridays and Saturdays. I am having more sex now and no one is gets pregnant.
Me - Wow things have changed a lot. I thought what I did in the Navy was gay stuff.
Steven - Mid forties right? You work out don't you get offers at the gym.
Me - That's funny, I would laugh if it wasn't so sad. Not that I am aware of.
Steven - I am almost done for today, your wife's at work how about we meet in the shower in five to ten minutes. Grab a couple of towels for when we get out.
Me - WOW This is crazy. It's like I'm back in the Navy. You are too hot not to take a shower with.
As it turns out this forty-six year old straight dad of two is not that straight after all. Making out with a guy is not all that different. It just screws with your head, your personal identity once you have done it, and may I add liked it and consented to do it again and again. I say that because it took three days to install the security system. For the first time in years I was having sex with another person. At this time in my life I was not sure the with someone else part would ever happen again.
With the Security System in place and knowledge of this happening I finally start to pick up on some vibes at the gym. I see what is going on two guys start talking, next thing you know they are in a shower stall or toilet stall with a buddy. I could never go there for some unknown reason. I did exchange a my number hoping for a buddy date and a safe place. I got a few offers that end up in the front seat of my car using a sock for protection. One guy my age was so hot I got us a hotel room we used for less than thirty minutes.
In a rare moment when my wife and I were both home for Labor Day weekend. My wife tells me one of her students wrote a paper on gay dating called Buddy Dates. Two guys go out on a date and agree to get their date to climax before the date is over. Everyone is to pay for themselves so no one feels obligated to do more than the other. Doing with the same person could cause attachment and lead to more gay stuff.
It can be a solution for marriages that one partner can't provide needed outlet. It is permission to do gay stuff with guys. She suggested I should look into it. She wants me to be happy.
In November around Thanksgiving I am in California, and my wife is in West Virginia. My Son Pete comes home unannounced and out of the blue. He sets the alarm off. The police get called. The alarm app on my phone goes off telling me to call the alarm company. My son is sitting in the back of a police car, by the time I get a call back from Steven.
He explains who it is and I verify that's my oldest son. They let Pete go and Steven shows him how to work the alarm and provides him his code. I get a text that everything has been resolved and to check out camera three. There on my phone I watch my oldest son and Steven buddy bate with each other. Pete swore on camera he would never tell anyone they did that. I arrived three days later to a very guilty of something son.
Knowledge is power, The fact I knew this information about my son led to three days of great conversations, about feelings, his future, his sex life and yes even gay stuff. He is not ready for a relationship, or kids. On his last night in town he brings up Buddy Dates and he is thinking of trying it. I explain let me know how it goes his mother suggested I check into it.
Pete gets back to college and they a have porn room at his fraternity for guys to buddy bate together. With in days Pete reports all the guys were getting along extremely well. A new line had been drawn. Straight guys could make out and jerk off with each other and it was considered normal. How ever any more than that and you were gay. Four brothers came out saying they do gay stuff. Two of them are boyfriends.
Which bring us back to Christmas vacation and both my sons home for vacation. I called the house at 8:30 and got no answer. So I checked camera three and Pete's bedroom to check out my sons doing each other. I watch the fifteen minutes it took wondering if they would cross the invisible line and move on to more hard core gay stuff. They did not. Which got me thinking if either could be gay or go someday go there. Is this new line on what constitutes what two guys can do has been decide by men for men as a way to justify and explain the need for three times a day.
My with and mother of my sons shows up a few days before Christmas. Looking rather ragged the three of us all seemed concerned for her heath. Strangely enough we all worked together to prepare a Christmas dinner. It was over this conversation my wife informed us all of her plans and intentions to move to Europe and start and spend her retirement there. We could stayed married but it would be finally better not to and there really no reason to be. Weird my boys changed their immediate concern to me and the news I would soon be single.
Dinner turned out delicious and by the time we got to the punkin pie we all agreed each of our lives is a book. We are and will always be a family in this story. We each grow up and go our different directions. Our chapters and lives interact as we grow up, get old, and learn more about ourselves and what makes us happy. We all agree we are each a phone call away and will always be family no matter where that takes us.
To my surprise my wifes plans were in the works. She had resigned all her positistions by Christmas. We agreed she could sell the Condo in Vermont and keep the money and I would get the main house. By Spring break she was had left for Europe. I was starting over.
I was getting close to fifty and tried dating a few ladies I had thought about cheating on my wife with. Steven and I went on a buddy date after I met his wife and she approved. She also does the books and knows how much I spent on the alarm system.
On that date and just as predicted Steven explains him and his brother in law do hard core gay stuff. The brother plays his wifes part. The wife has know idea her brother is officially gay and in love with her husband. Steven seems to think his wife could care less she just does want to lose her wife status with Steve and his business. This is about raising our kids and we need each other to do that.
Steven's boyfriend slash brother n law goes full board drama queen and comes out of the closet as gay. He tells the family the real story and and they all blame the married couple for involving the brother. The wife refusal to have any procedure to stop having more babies, and to have sex. Her mother sided with the brother and want Steven to just switch. While her dad hates "fags" and can't believe she married one and had him turned her brother gay. Steven and his wife in up getting a divorce and share custody of the children. They sold the business, split the profits in half and started living separate lives.
Steven then bought his half of the company back and the next thing you know he and I are in business together. He and the girls moved in with me two months later. We come out to family and friends as two gay guys with plans to get married at the age of fifty. To a hot thirty-three gay year old man that likes it three times a day.
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